NURISH HARDEFTY

Dalam ajaran Islam, kewajiban menjaga, merawat, dan menafkahi ibu yang lansia dan sakit terutama dibebankan kepada anak laki-laki. Hal ini didasarkan pada beberapa dalil dalam Al-Qur'an dan hadis, yang menegaskan bahwa anak laki-laki memiliki tanggung jawab finansial dan perawatan terhadap orang tua mereka, terutama ibu. Dalil-Dalil Terkait: 1. Surah Al-Isra' ayat 23-24 "Dan Tuhanmu telah memerintahkan agar kamu jangan menyembah selain Dia dan hendaklah berbuat baik kepada kedua orang tua. Jika salah seorang di antara keduanya atau kedua-duanya sampai berusia lanjut dalam pemeliharaanmu, maka janganlah sekali-kali engkau mengatakan kepada mereka perkataan 'ah' dan janganlah engkau membentak mereka, dan ucapkanlah kepada mereka perkataan yang baik." 2. Hadis Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim Seorang sahabat bertanya kepada Rasulullah SAW, "Siapakah yang paling berhak aku perlakukan dengan baik?" Rasulullah menjawab, "Ibumu." Sahabat itu bertanya la...

Life often offers happiness only briefly before taking it away in the most painful way. I have experienced many things that may be difficult for some to understand—love that arrives with hope, only to leave behind wounds that are hard to heal. In early 2018, a Hungarian man named Zoltan Furedi managed to break through the walls of my proud heart. He was persistent, making me feel unconditionally loved in his own way. But fate had other plans. He left forever in 2020, leaving a deep hole in my heart. The grief I felt was overwhelming, and for months, I was consumed by sorrow. I cannot explain everything here, but his passing left me with immense regret and guilt. When I began to make peace with that loss, my best friend, "Thomas," whom I had loved since 2015, returned, offering to fill the emptiness in my heart. We tried to rebuild a relationship that had previously failed, despite the distance separating us. But long-distance love doesn’t always go as hoped. Thomas, the Norwe...

By Nurish Hardefty  She sits by the window, a soul torn in two, Rain whispers secrets the heart once knew. Tears trace paths down her weary face, In silence, she mourns love’s empty embrace. The city weeps with her in a soft, gray hue, Each drop a mirror, reflecting what’s true. Yet in her chest, a faint ember glows, A quiet resolve the storm cannot close. Her trembling hand wipes tears away, As she whispers to herself, “I’ll find my way.” For though the pain feels endless, deep, Hope stirs gently where shadows sleep. By the window, she learns to mend, To be her own strength, her truest friend. The rain may fall, the heart may ache, But healing blooms in each step she’ll take.

By Nurish Hardefty  For years, her heart has held its flame, A quiet devotion, without a name. She loves him still, though time moves on, A melody played long after it’s gone. Her lips stay sealed, her pain concealed, The wounds of longing never healed. For how could she claim what isn’t hers? A fleeting dream, a love that blurs. She watches him walk to paths unknown, Accepting his freedom, though she's alone. For love, she knows, is not to bind, But to let him seek what he must find. Her heart aches softly, yet doesn’t rebel, She whispers goodbye in a silent farewell. For though he is gone, her love remains, A tender solace amidst the pains. In the quiet corners of her soul, She carries him still, a part of her whole. Loving from afar, with no demand, Letting go with an open hand.

By Nurish Hardefty  Three years more have passed, a journey my own, A path of strength where seeds were sown. Alone, yet never truly apart, With the whispers of growth deep in my heart. The bench bears witness, the sunset glows, In solitude’s quiet, resilience grows. Each fallen leaf a story told, Of battles fought, of courage bold. No hand to hold, yet I’ve found my way, Through shadows of night to light of day. A single soul, yet not forlorn, For in this stillness, I am reborn. Three years of peace, of learning to be, A woman of strength, wild and free. Congratulations, whispered by the breeze, A love for myself, a heart at peace.

When a man comes back after hurting a woman long ago, it can be for various reasons. Here are some possibilities: 1. Regret and Guilt He may have realized the extent of the hurt he caused and wants to make amends or seek forgiveness to alleviate his guilt. 2. Nostalgia Time often softens bad memories. He might remember the good times and feel drawn back to the connection they once shared. 3. Changed Perspective People grow and change. He might have gained maturity or experienced life events that made him appreciate what he lost. 4. Loneliness or Unresolved Feelings He could be feeling lonely or realizing that his feelings for the woman were deeper than he acknowledged at the time. 5. Ego or Convenience Sometimes, it’s not about love but about wanting familiarity, attention, or closure on his terms. 6. Testing Boundaries Some people return to see if they still have a place in someone’s life, often without considering the emotional consequences. It's important to consider...

Berdasarkan pengalaman pribadi yang sedang saya hadapi saat ini, dimana saya berjuang seorang diri selama dua tahun tiga bulan dalam merawat dan menafkahi ibu saya yang sakit dan berusia 59 tahun.  Ibu saya tidak pernah menikah lagi setelah ayah saya berkhianat dari kami dan menelantarkan kami begitu saja, sehingga masa muda ibu saya habis hanya untuk mencari uang dan hidup berjauhan dari anak-anaknya.  Hal ini membuat masa kecil saya dan kakak saya sampai dewasa hidup mandiri tanpa asuhan kedua orang tua dan berdampak kurangnya ikatan emosional antara anak dengan orang tua karena kurangnya perhatian, waktu kebersamaan dan hal lainnya yang kami butuhkan saat kanak-kanak. Hal ini terasa sekali ketika ibu saya mulai menua dan tidak mampu lagi bekerja mencari uang, kakak laki-laki saya jauh lebih memprioritaskan dirinya sendiri, istri, ketiga anaknya dan juga keluarga dari pihak istrinya, sehingga Ia enggan bertanggung jawab akan ibu kandungnya sendiri....